See What You Made Me Do: Power, Control and Domestic Violence by Jess Hill

$38.00 NZD

Category: Psychology / Self Help

Winner of the Stella Prize 2020.    At the office of Safe Steps, Victoria's dedicated 24/7 family violence response call centre, phone counsellors receive a call every three minutes. Many women are repeat callers- on average, they will go back to an abusive partner eight times before leaving for good. ' You must get so frustrated when you think a woman's ready to leave and then she decides to go back,? I say. 'No,' replies one phone counsellor, pointedly. 'I'm frustrated that even though he promised to stop, he chose to abuse her again.' Women are abused or killed by their partners at astonishing rates- in Australia, almost 17 per cent of women over the age of fifteen - one in six - have been abused by an intimate partner. In this confronting and deeply researched account, journalist Jess Hill uncovers the ways in which abusers exert control in the darkest - and most intimate - ways imaginable. She asks- What do we know about perpetrators? Why is it so hard to leave? What does successful intervention look like? What emerges is not only a searing investigation of the violence so many women experience, but a dissection of how that violence can be enabled and reinforced by the judicial system we trust to protect us. Combining exhaustive research with riveting storytelling, See What You Made Me Do dismantles the flawed logic of victim-blaming and challenges everything you thought you knew about domestic and family violence. ...Show more

Headlands: New Stories of Anxiety by Naomi Arnold (editor)

$30.00 NZD

Category: Psychology / Self Help | Reading Level: very good

In 2017, Ministry of Health figures showed that one in five New Zealanders sought help for a diagnosed mood or anxiety disorder, and these figures are growing. Headlands: New Stories of Anxiety tells the real, messy story behind these statistics - what anxiety feels like, what causes it, what helps and what doesnt. These accounts are sometimes raw and confronting, but they all seek to share experiences, remove stigma, offer help or simply shine a light on what anxiety is. The stories in Headlands are told by people from all walks of life: poets, novelists and journalists, musicians, social workers, and health professionals, and includes new work from Ashleigh Young, Tusiata Avia, Danyl McLauchlan, Selina Tusitala Marsh, Hinemoana Baker and Kirsten McDougall. Edited by journalist Naomi Arnold, Headlands shows that some communities have better access to mental health services than others and it underscores the importance for greater understanding of the condition across the whole of society. It is not a book of solutions nor a self-help guide. Instead, it has been put together for all individuals and whanau affected by anxiety. It's also for those who are still suffering in silence, in the hope they will see themselves reflected in these pages and understand they are not alone. ...Show more

Group: How One Therapist and a Circle of Strangers Saved My Life by Christie Tate

$38.00 NZD

Category: Biography / Memoir

The refreshingly original debut memoir of a guarded, over-achieving, self-lacerating young lawyer who reluctantly agrees to get psychologically and emotionally naked in a room of six complete strangers - her psychotherapy group - and in turn finds human connection, and herself. Christie Tate had just b een named the top student in her law school class and finally had her eating disorder under control. Why then was she driving through Chicago fantasising about her own death? Why was she envisioning putting an end to the isolation and sadness that still plagued her in spite of her achievements? Enter Dr. Rosen, a therapist who calmly assures her that if she joins one of his psychotherapy groups, he can transform her life. All she has to do is show up and be honest. About everything - her eating habits, childhood, sexual history, etc. Christie is skeptical, insisting that that she is defective, beyond cure. But Dr. Rosen issues a nine-word prescription that will change everything: "You don't need a cure, you need a witness." So begins her entry into the strange, terrifying, and ultimately life-changing world of group therapy. Christie is initially put off by Dr. Rosen's outlandish directives, but as her defenses break down and she comes to trust Dr. Rosen and to depend on the sessions and the prescribed nightly phone calls with various group members, she begins to understand what it means to connect. Group is a deliciously addictive read, and with Christie as our guide - skeptical of her own capacity for connection and intimacy, but hopeful in spite of herself - we are given a front row seat to the daring, exhilarating, painful, and hilarious journey that is group therapy - an under-explored process that breaks you down, and then reassembles you so that all the pieces finally fit. ...Show more

Note to Self: The Secrets of Calm by Rebekah Ballagh

$25.00 NZD

Category: Psychology / Self Help

Available November 2020 An inspirational personal development book including helpful tips and cute illustrations to aid with anxiety, overthinking and depression. This book is jam-packed with handy tips, bite-sized wisdoms & thoughtful illustrations to help you navigate through feelings like anxiety , stress, worry, guilt & sadness. Within these pages you will find practical tools & insights to help you tackle your day-to-day tricky emotions. Contents: 1. Feeling 2. Grounding 3. Breathing 4. Thinking 5. Affirming ...Show more

BLIS For Insomniacs by Allan Baker

$25.00 NZD

Category: Psychology / Self Help

Truth Spirit Love - The Essential Guide to Healing by Dawn Kelly

$35.00 NZD

Category: Psychology / Self Help

Be ready for healing and heightened awareness to be sparked as you embark on a journey into the true nature of healing. You will discover knowledge that has the power to transform your life. There is truth, spirit and love sprinkled throughout these pages. This high-vibration healing energy will resonat e deeply and reconnect you with your own spirit. Let this essential healing guide be your new companion. Healing expert Dawn Grace Kelly shares with you simple yet powerful techniques that will support you to truly heal on every level of your being. With a history of codependancy, addiction and abuse Dawn has been on a courageous journey experiencing first-hand what it takes to truly heal. In this often deeply personal book you too will discover techniques to support yourself to evolve. In this powerful healing guide you will learn: The 12 steps to real healing.How to connect with your intuition.How to raise your vibration.How to be with strong emotions for powerful shifts.How to forgive yourself and others.How to hear what your pain wants to communicate.How to stay present in your body.How to feel ease within challenging relationships."For those on a journey of healing and personal growth, 'Truth Spirit Love' provides everything you need to assist you on your path. Dawn Grace Kelly offers a wide variety of tools combined with valuable insight and advice and she delivers it in a very practical and easy-to-understand way. 'Truth Spirit Love' really, truly is - an essential guide to healing!"Michelle Buchanan, Hay House author of The Numerology Guidebook. Dawn Grace Kelly is a spiritual teacher, intuitive and healer who has been working with clients and students for 26 years. Her proven techniques have helped thousands of people transform their lives and are now available to you in this life-changing book. dawngracekelly.com ...Show more

Loss Adjustment by Linda Collins

$40.00 NZD

Category: Biography / Memoir | Reading Level: near fine

Linda Collins gets up on a Monday morning, dresses for work, makes coffee and goes into her daughter Victoria’s bedroom. Why hasn’t Vicky got up yet? It’s an important day: the start of the second term of her final year at school. Today she will hear her latest exam results. The bedroom is empty. So be gins every parent’s worst nightmare. Collins, a New Zealand journalist based in Singapore, writes with startling candour about her daughter’s suicide: the secrets she kept from her parents, the revelations in the personal journals she left behind, and the struggle of Collins and Malcolm McLeod, Victoria’s father, to find answers in the midst of enormous grief. How, they ask themselves, could they have missed the signs? What did the counsellors at Victoria’s school know about her state of mind? Did her school friends have any idea how desperate she was? And above all, why would a beautiful, talented, much loved young woman take her own life? Loss Adjustment is a wake-up call. New Zealand has the highest suicide rate for teenagers among the world’s wealthy developed countries. Most of those who kill themselves are, like Victoria McLeod, aged 15 to 19. Linda Collins examines the tragedy of teenage suicide from her profoundly personal viewpoint, while Victoria’s journals, uncovered after her death, give an incredibly valuable insight into the unseen stresses and anxieties suffered by many teenagers.  ...Show more

The Chimp Paradox - The Acclaimed Mind Management Programme to Help You Achieve Success, Confidence and Happiness by Steve Peters

$38.00 NZD

Category: Psychology / Self Help

Do you sometimes behave irrationally or impulsively? Do you face some situations with fear and trepidation? Do feelings of self-doubt consume everyday activities?Leading forensic psychologist, Dr Steve Peters, knows more than anyone how impulsive behaviour or nagging self-doubt can impact negatively on our professional and personal lives.In this, his first book, Steve shares his phenomenally successful mind management programme that has been used to help elite athletes and senior managers alike to conquer their fears and operate with greater control, focus and confidence. Seemingly complex concepts are made simple with the use of memorable analogies -- such as the 'chimp?, that seemingly irrational and impulsive being that inhabits our minds -- and real-life case studies. Never before will you have had such a deep and clear understanding of your own behaviour and natural responses to certain people or situations.This knowledge, combined with simple techniques that can be easily incorporated into daily life, will help you to control your emotional impulses and reach your full potential, leading to success at work and a more harmonious home life. ...Show more

How to Be an Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi

$40.00 NZD

Category: Psychology / Self Help

Not being racist is not enough. We have to be antiracist. In this rousing and deeply empathetic book, Ibram X. Kendi, founding director of the Antiracism Research and Policy Center, shows that when it comes to racism, neutrality is not an option: until we become part of the solution, we can only be par t of the problem. Using his extraordinary gifts as a teacher and story-teller, Kendi helps us recognise that everyone is, at times, complicit in racism whether they realise it or not, and by describing with moving humility his own journey from racism to antiracism, he shows us how instead to be a force for good. Along the way, Kendi punctures all the myths and taboos that so often cloud our understanding, from arguments about what race is and whether racial differences exist to the complications that arise when race intersects with ethnicity, class, gender and sexuality. In the process he demolishes the myth of the post-racial society and builds from the ground up a vital new understanding of racism - what it is, where it is hidden, how to identify it and what to do about it. ...Show more

Untamed: Stop Pleasing, Start Living by Glennon Doyle

$40.00 NZD

Category: Psychology / Self Help

There is a voice of longing inside each woman. We strive so mightily to be good: good partners, daughters, mothers, employees and friends. We hope all this striving will make us feel alive. Instead, it leaves us feeling weary, stuck, overwhelmed and underwhelmed. We look at our lives and wonder: Wasn't it all supposed to be more beautiful than this? We quickly silence that question, telling ourselves to be grateful, hiding our discontent - even from ourselves. For many years, Glennon Doyle denied her own discontent. Then, while speaking at a conference, she looked at a woman across the room and fell instantly in love. Three words flooded her mind: There She Is. At first, Glennon assumed these words came to her from on high. But she soon realised they had come to her from within. This was her own voice - the one she had buried beneath decades of numbing addictions, cultural conditioning and institutional allegiances. This was the voice of the girl she had been before the world told her who to be. Glennon decided to stop abandoning herself and to instead abandon the world's expectations of her. She stopped being good so she could be free. She stopped pleasing and started living. Soulful and uproarious, forceful and tender, Untamed is both an intimate memoir and a galvanising wake-up call. It is the story of how one woman learned that a responsible mother is not one who slowly dies for her children, but one who shows them how to fully live. It is also the story of how each of us can begin to trust ourselves enough to set boundaries, make peace with our bodies, honour our anger and heartbreak, and unleash our truest, wildest instincts. Untamed shows us how to be brave. And, as Glennon insists, 'The braver we are, the luckier we get.'   ...Show more

Perform Under Pressure: Change the Way You Think Act and Feel Under Pressure by Ceri Evans

$40.00 NZD

Category: Psychology / Self Help | Reading Level: very good

The transformative mind-model for performing under stress and making pressure your advantage is used by the planet's top performers. In Performance Under Pressure, forensic psychiatrist Dr Ceri Evans gives you the tools to take control of the moment. Beat doubt, worry, regret and burnout with simple min d techniques and discover the secret of how to be 'comfortable being uncomfortable'.    No one is immune to pressure. We all fall victim to its effects in the same ways. But pressure is misunderstood. Pressure can be your greatest ally in leading a fulfilling and successful life. The more discomfort there is in a situation, the better it is for those who have prepared. In this, his very first book, Dr Ceri Evans shares the life-changing methods he uses with some of the planet's top performers. This book will give you a better understanding of how the brain behaves under pressure using the Red-Blue mind model, a simple, contagious and universally applicable recipe for dealing with whatever pressure you have in your life, whatever form it takes. ...Show more

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson

$35.00 NZD

Category: Psychology / Self Help | Reading Level: good

For the past few years, Mark Manson-via his wildly popular blog-has been working on correcting our delusional expectations for ourselves and for the world. He now brings his hard-fought wisdom to this groundbreaking book. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-tal k, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor. ...Show more